Hope in a Hopeless World

Mental Health Outreach

Protecting those that Protect Us

PTSD, Self Worth, Support for Family and Friends

This past week I heard the devastating news that two Minnesota police officers died by suicide. My heart breaks for what these men experienced in the days, months, and years leading up to their final moments. The tears quietly fall from my eyes as I think about the family they left behind.

As I let the tears fall, I reflect back to a time, in the not so distant past, where I wondered if today would be the day that I would get that call. Several times I had wondered, “Would today be the day that someone shows up at my house to tell me that my husband died by suicide?”

Fortunately for me, that moment never came. Later I would find out that my fears were too close to becoming reality. 

My husband spent 12 years serving in the Minnesota Army National Guard. It is here that he would make life long friends and find purpose in serving his country. It is also where he would witness horrific and tragic events that no human should ever have to see. 

Coming home he would suffer in silence as he relived the tragedies. During the day simple conversations or things in his environment would trigger memories. At night it was the nightmares that felt too real. 

Suicide is not selfish. 

Living in the constant place of trauma is unbearable and affects every moment of life.

My husband would later tell me that he firmly believed that his family would be better off without him as a burden to daily life. He believed that because of the things he experienced and did during his time overseas, that the world didn’t need him around. 

He saw suicide as a selfless act to spare others from the monster he believed himself to be. 

I’ll never forget the day my husband opened up about his experiences; calling himself worthless. This strong, brave protector couldn’t see the hero that I saw. 

The men and women that are called to protect us on U.S. ground or overseas come in different forms; military branches, police officers, and first responders.

As a community indebted to these men and women, we need to rally together to protect those that are called to protect us. 

Take a first step in showing that support by learning more about what these men and women go through. Research things to say and not say when you have the opportunity to have a conversation with them.  Show them the love and support they deserve. 

In honor of Veteran’s Day, take some time to learn how you, as a community member, can help those that protect you every day. 

Not sure where to start? See the articles linked below. 💜

Author: Crystal

How to talk to and support a Vet:

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Impact Stories from Police and Veteran: