Dear Husband,

I know the world may make you feel unworthy. The world may see you as just another. Another man caught in the troubles of life. One that is bogged down by mistakes and trials. They see another marriage torn by unfaithful actions. Another dad to a blended family.

The world may see the imperfections.

They may say you are unworthy.

There will be times that you are dismissed and judged. You may have to prove yourself again and again. You will have to re-explain your story and see the judgement in the eyes of every new person. The confusion and surprise will continue when you must explain yet again your family structure and trials you are facing.

There will be days that you feel the guilt of these mistakes.  

There will be days that you feel worthless.

I need you to know that this is not what I see.

I see the power of redemption. I see a man that lost his way and allowed grace and forgiveness to transform. Someone who cares deeply about those around him and fights everyday to overcome the mistakes and nightmares of the past.

I see the courageous way that you allow the world to see your mistakes and risk the harsh judgement that may follow.

As for me I choose to see the greatness that has always been there. I choose to see the man of integrity, courage, kindness, and love.

Let the world believe what they will. You will continue to prove them wrong and win people over. You are aiming for long term solutions not short term praise.

Continue to fight for what you believe in and provide encouragement to those around you.

Your family will be standing at your side.

You are valued. You are loved.

You are worthy.

Love, Your Wife.